There are also people who think, feel good by doing something that is not good. I sometimes do that. I feel good after drinking alcohol. For some people, it's not good. But to me? I did something bad and I feel good at the time.
I'm trying to understand the words bad and good in more depth. Sometimes we do something good, but our hearts are not sincere (that means we do something good but feeling bad)
It is difficult. Doing something good are not always followed by the feeling of really sincere. A good combination is, doing something good and feel good about what we do. Was just perfect. For me, the choice is not only between a bad and good. If depicted with a color, not just between black and white.
For me, life is not just two choices. Life is not limited to such a dichotomy. I would not choose black (bad) or white (good). I chose gray. Gray that moved closer to the white, not gray approaching black. Life is a process of becoming better, not worse. I believe that will always feel good when we try to be better in the future.
hi mr. stranger.. i thank you so much for your comment, it means a lot to me..i know we have our own ideas and here's my opinion to your thoughts.
from what i have understood to your comment, i guess you are pointing to "guilty pleasure". in your inner self you know that excessive drinking is not good, but because you feel good in doing this you are tolerating your addiction just to satisfy your self. most of us are covering our eyes from the reality because we are afraid to see the truth. doing bad just to feel good is just a temporary feeling while doing good to feel good is a lifetime. our own self is our greatest friend and enemy...that's why it's hard to resist. in every addiction there's always a reason. try to ask yourself, why are you doing this? is there something lacking in your personal life that's why you are diverting your attention to alcohol? i know there are a lot of factors but once you point out the reason/s, start all over again from there and work it out.
I totally agree with this, "Life is a process of becoming better, not worse. I believe that will always feel good when we try to be better in the future." ..but i don't know if you'll agree with me that we can only be better if we'll drop the baggage that's dragging us to our worse. If we want to move forward in life there's only two decisions -yes or no.
standing up for what is right is not always easy and falling to our weaknesses is always a temptation. it's okay to make mistakes because its where we learn, but we can only learn from them if we'll have the courage to correct them. it's not too late to start again.
I have difficulty in conveying my idea with English language. I feel that my ideas seems very limited to be delivered. But I'll try to clarify again what I want to say. I know, many of us are running away from reality. Looking for temporary pleasure. But we must remember, often people in a bad moment was not able to look at other options. The essentially concept is correct, about doing good will feel good too. I think that words could be spoken by someone who has dared to choose. And I feel that you have the courage to choose to run the basic concept. Actually, I was talking about the process. In ethics, there is never a dichotomy. Everything is always colored gray. There is no black and no white. There is no right and no wrong. Who can guarantee that what we consider good, well regarded by other people? Who can guarantee that what we think is bad is also considered bad by others? Understand the truth based on normative rules was very poor understanding. Miss Stranger, i was a student of theology, i tied on a lot of the norms that make me miserable. I do a lot of good things among the people and the church. I was nice, but i do not feel good because i know i'm doing good because i was afraid of people looking bad at me. Many people fail in their effort to be a good person. Because they was stuck in a consept about bad and good. Who created about that consept? About bad and good? All of us. Sometimes, we feel that we know what God’s will. But the quetions is, who really really know about the God’s will? No one. All of us was failed to understand the essential of life. I did so much bad things. I cant be a good people suddenly. There is one way that i call process. It was very difficult. What I hve to be done is to recognize all of my weaknesses. Let the Lord enter to my weakness. At that moment I felt very judged when people say i'm depraved and bad. The consept about good and bad, makes me hard to move. I will and must move to be a good man. And I hope the people at that time understood that the process would make things more meaningful. In theology, I learned how Lord approached bad people and make their lives more meaningful. Miss Stranger, I'm thinking about all the values that I embrace in this moment. About what is right and what went wrong. But I never found a definitive answer about the standard of the good and bad. Until one day, I realized that the good can only be called good when it brings joy and goodness to us and those around us. Miss Stranger, do you know a good thing to do and you will feel good because it? When you can do something for others who are in bad condition with a humane approach as what God is doing. Me, you and everyone must learn to accept without judging. I do it now, and I feel very good. I hope it is can answers what we are discussing. I tell u once again, my English is difficult to make delivered my idea. Hahaha
haaha.. that's okay mr. stranger. i don't want to judge you because i'm not also good in english.
i know you're going through a lot, just keep on going mr. stranger. i know we are surrounded with a lot of people and many will tell us a lot of things about what's right and wrong, and sometimes we feel choke of their words. sometimes it's a little bit scary because every move, action or decision we do will be judged by others, maybe some will be pleased, some may not. just always remember it's you who really know the inner you. do what your heart desire, because life is a journey, enjoy it, anyway at the end of your life it's still you who will face the judgment of God and not the people surrounding you. i know this is easy said than done, and i know i haven't done yet everything that i desire but at least i always follow my heart regardless if they are wrong or right. the consequences will just be part of our learnings later on.
this was just cross my mind lately, it's better to regret the things you've done out of your decisions for your life than to regret the decisions made by others for your life.
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There are also people who think, feel good by doing something that is not good. I sometimes do that. I feel good after drinking alcohol. For some people, it's not good. But to me? I did something bad and I feel good at the time.
I'm trying to understand the words bad and good in more depth. Sometimes we do something good, but our hearts are not sincere (that means we do something good but feeling bad)
It is difficult. Doing something good are not always followed by the feeling of really sincere. A good combination is, doing something good and feel good about what we do. Was just perfect.
For me, the choice is not only between a bad and good. If depicted with a color, not just between black and white.
For me, life is not just two choices. Life is not limited to such a dichotomy.
I would not choose black (bad) or white (good). I chose gray. Gray that moved closer to the white, not gray approaching black. Life is a process of becoming better, not worse. I believe that will always feel good when we try to be better in the future.
Thx for ur writing Miss Stranger...
hi mr. stranger.. i thank you so much for your comment, it means a lot to me..i know we have our own ideas and here's my opinion to your thoughts.
from what i have understood to your comment, i guess you are pointing to "guilty pleasure". in your inner self you know that excessive drinking is not good, but because you feel good in doing this you are tolerating your addiction just to satisfy your self. most of us are covering our eyes from the reality because we are afraid to see the truth. doing bad just to feel good is just a temporary feeling while doing good to feel good is a lifetime. our own self is our greatest friend and enemy...that's why it's hard to resist. in every addiction there's always a reason. try to ask yourself, why are you doing this? is there something lacking in your personal life that's why you are diverting your attention to alcohol? i know there are a lot of factors but once you point out the reason/s, start all over again from there and work it out.
I totally agree with this, "Life is a process of becoming better, not worse. I believe that will always feel good when we try to be better in the future." ..but i don't know if you'll agree with me that we can only be better if we'll drop the baggage that's dragging us to our worse. If we want to move forward in life there's only two decisions -yes or no.
standing up for what is right is not always easy and falling to our weaknesses is always a temptation. it's okay to make mistakes because its where we learn, but we can only learn from them if we'll have the courage to correct them. it's not too late to start again.
i wish you all the best in life Mr. Stranger.
I have difficulty in conveying my idea with English language. I feel that my ideas seems very limited to be delivered. But I'll try to clarify again what I want to say. I know, many of us are running away from reality. Looking for temporary pleasure. But we must remember, often people in a bad moment was not able to look at other options. The essentially concept is correct, about doing good will feel good too. I think that words could be spoken by someone who has dared to choose. And I feel that you have the courage to choose to run the basic concept. Actually, I was talking about the process. In ethics, there is never a dichotomy. Everything is always colored gray. There is no black and no white. There is no right and no wrong. Who can guarantee that what we consider good, well regarded by other people? Who can guarantee that what we think is bad is also considered bad by others? Understand the truth based on normative rules was very poor understanding.
Miss Stranger, i was a student of theology, i tied on a lot of the norms that make me miserable. I do a lot of good things among the people and the church. I was nice, but i do not feel good because i know i'm doing good because i was afraid of people looking bad at me. Many people fail in their effort to be a good person. Because they was stuck in a consept about bad and good. Who created about that consept? About bad and good? All of us. Sometimes, we feel that we know what God’s will. But the quetions is, who really really know about the God’s will? No one. All of us was failed to understand the essential of life. I did so much bad things. I cant be a good people suddenly. There is one way that i call process. It was very difficult. What I hve to be done is to recognize all of my weaknesses. Let the Lord enter to my weakness. At that moment I felt very judged when people say i'm depraved and bad. The consept about good and bad, makes me hard to move. I will and must move to be a good man. And I hope the people at that time understood that the process would make things more meaningful. In theology, I learned how Lord approached bad people and make their lives more meaningful. Miss Stranger, I'm thinking about all the values that I embrace in this moment. About what is right and what went wrong. But I never found a definitive answer about the standard of the good and bad. Until one day, I realized that the good can only be called good when it brings joy and goodness to us and those around us.
Miss Stranger, do you know a good thing to do and you will feel good because it? When you can do something for others who are in bad condition with a humane approach as what God is doing. Me, you and everyone must learn to accept without judging. I do it now, and I feel very good. I hope it is can answers what we are discussing. I tell u once again, my English is difficult to make delivered my idea. Hahaha
haaha.. that's okay mr. stranger. i don't want to judge you because i'm not also good in english.
i know you're going through a lot, just keep on going mr. stranger. i know we are surrounded with a lot of people and many will tell us a lot of things about what's right and wrong, and sometimes we feel choke of their words. sometimes it's a little bit scary because every move, action or decision we do will be judged by others, maybe some will be pleased, some may not. just always remember it's you who really know the inner you. do what your heart desire, because life is a journey, enjoy it, anyway at the end of your life it's still you who will face the judgment of God and not the people surrounding you. i know this is easy said than done, and i know i haven't done yet everything that i desire but at least i always follow my heart regardless if they are wrong or right. the consequences will just be part of our learnings later on.
this was just cross my mind lately, it's better to regret the things you've done out of your decisions for your life than to regret the decisions made by others for your life.
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